Hello! My name is Robin (You may also know me as Ava).
A few years ago, I loaded up my three little girls, three cats, a pet chicken, and every possession I could discreetly pack into my car. We fled across the country to what I hoped and prayed would be a better life.
I was very frightened, but knew that if I stayed, I would
possibly be dead by my husband's hands within a year.
My close circle of confidants feared daily I would be the victim of a fatal “accident.” I had even started composing a letter to leave behind in case I didn’t escape before an “accident” at my husband’s hands. The probable fate of my daughters, if I were not around to protect them, was too horrible to contemplate.
If you are reading this, it is likely that you or someone you care about is in a painful, and perhaps dangerous, toxic relationship. Deeply engrained faulty religious beliefs compound a victim’s ability to get away from an abuser.
A comforting song if you are hurting: Help Me I Pray
by Sylvia Frejd
It was the number one thing I struggled with – I was more afraid of disappointing God than I was of being murdered. The one thing that finally overrode that fear, was the realization one fateful day of what would happen to my children if I wasn’t there to protect them.
It was after I fled, that God was able to help me see the truth about Him, and that He had never wanted me to stay in that dangerous situation. Now I can share these important truths with you, and hopefully spare you the pain of staying in a dangerous toxic relationship out of fear of God being mad at you.
This site is for you: to give you hope in the midst of despair, to help you find clarity in the fog of confusion, and to inspire you to step out courageously and live the joyful and fulfilling life God meant for you to have.
I will help you along the way, and there will be others to come alongside you also. God did not intend for you to walk this path alone. He has led you to this site to help you get the answers you need, and find the peace that you crave. Don't give up!
Have you experienced this in your life or know someone who has?
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Eventually I couldn’t ignore the evidence that Brian's mentality was similar to the cult leader mentality of Jim Jones.
Nothing prepared me to realize that ‘fear’ would come at the hands of a person of trust, let alone a pastor like my husband.